In the Absence of Friends and Loved Ones
December 20, 2012
“And this is what we mean by friends. Even when they are absent, they are with us . . . even when they are weak, they are strong; and even when they are dead, they are alive.”
— Cicero
“Listen to me: everything you think you know, every relationship you’ve ever taken for granted, every plan or possibility you’ve ever hatched, every conceit or endeavor you’ve ever concocted, can be stripped from you in an instant. Sooner or later, it will happen. So prepare yourself. Be ready not to be ready. Be ready to be brought to your knees and beaten to dust. Because no stable foundation, no act of will, no force of cautious habit will save you from this fact: nothing is indestructible.”
— Jonathan Evison, from The Revised Fundamentals of Caregiving
Today’s post is in memory of Alden, my daughter’s best friend, who died one year ago. Sometimes it is difficult to find the strength to stay open to the joys of the season. I am privileged to witness my daughter’s courage in this regard. My heartfelt best wishes to everyone who is suffering the absence of beloved friends and family this holiday season.
” . . . simply living demands all the courage that we have.”
— Adam Gopnik, from Winter: Five Windows on the Season
The Best Day of the Year
December 19, 2012
“Gray skies and December lights are my idea of secret joy, and if there were a heaven, I would expect it to have a lowering violet-gray sky . . . and white lights on all the trees and the first flakes just falling, and it would always be December 19 — the best day of the year, school out, stores open late, Christmas a week away.”
— Adam Gopnik, Winter: Five Windows on the Season
I couldn’t resist using this quote, just perfect for December 19th. In Winter: Five Windows on the Season, Gopnik explores the ways winter is a time of human warmth rather than the more ancient view of winter as a sign of our withdrawal from grace. I especially liked the essay called “Romantic Winter,” a sentiment that could only arise after the invention of central heating! “Winter’s persona changes with our perception of safety from it . . . The romance of winter is possible only when we have a warm, secure indoors to retreat to, and winter becomes a season to look at as much as one to live through.”
It’s true. After a drizzly evening in downtown Seattle enjoying the festive lights, I was happy to return home to my warm, quilted bed!
Handmade Holidays: 3-D Paper Snowflakes
December 12, 2012
“Snowflakes spill from heaven’s hand
Lovely and chaste like smooth white sand.
A veil of wonder laced in light
Falling gently on a winter’s night.”
–Linda A. Copp
Several years ago one of the gift wrappers at the University Bookstore in Seattle was making these holiday snowflakes (or they could be stars, I guess). She gave me a photocopied set of instructions, original source unknown. I’ve been meaning to make some of these snowflakes for holiday decorations, but until now, I never got around to it.
My finished snowflake hangs in my kitchen window, a lacy wonder that lets in the light.
Here are step-by-step instructions for making your own paper snowflake/star:
You need six square of paper. I used 5 x 5-inch squares. Fold each square in half along the diagonal, making a triangle. Then fold in half again. And again.
Now, keeping the little triangles folded, cut four parallel slits on the solid side. Cut almost all the way across.
Open each piece of paper back into a square and flatten with your fingers.
Next you will bring two opposite points of the inner squares together in a sequence. In order to do this, you will first have to cut the corners free along one long diagonal fold line. (Leave the other points/corners so that they are not cut all the way through.)
Starting with the smallest inner square, fold two opposite points together and tape into a cylindrical shape.
1. Turn the square over. 2. Bring the opposite points of the next larger square together and tape. Repeat steps 1 and 2 until all of the opposing points have been taped in the center.
Your square should now look like this. You need five more. Start folding and taping!
Once you have completed all six sections of the snowflake, take three and match up at a point. Staple at this point. Repeat with the other three sections.
That’s it! Your paper snowflake/star is complete.
It’s that Most Wonderful Time of the Year
December 4, 2012
“It is Christmas in the heart that puts Christmas in the air.”
— W. T. Ellis
“Christmas waves a magic wand over this world, and behold, everything is softer and more beautiful.”
— Norman Vincent Peale
I try not to get stressed with all of the messages crying buy, buy, buy during the holiday season. But I have to admit that I appreciate the colors, lights, and scents of baking and pine trees during this most dark time of the year. I can hardly imagine what December would be like without the glitz, commercial or not.
So I made a pilgrimage to Swansons Nursery in Seattle to feed my eyes on the reds and greens of the season. The poinsettias alone offer such a variety of colors that put Christmas in the air.
Let Justice Roll Down Like Waters
January 16, 2012
“Let justice roll down like waters and righteousness like an ever flowing stream.” (Amos 5:24)
“The top 1 percent of Americans now take in roughly one-fourth of America’s total income every year. In terms of wealth rather than income . . . the top 1 percent now control 40 percent of the total. This is new. Twenty-five years ago, the corresponding figures were 12 percent and 33 percent.”
— Joseph Stiglitz
There is a revolution going on. As Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. said in his Letter from a Birmingham Jail, “Oppressed people cannot remain oppressed forever. The yearning for freedom eventually manifests itself.”
Today is a national holiday to honor MLK. It’s a good day to reflect on the parallels between the Civil Rights movement he led and the current Occupy movement, whose participants are channeling their discontent with public demonstrations and civil disobedience.
” . . . every political protest is an appeal to a justice that is absent, and is accompanied by a hope that in the future this justice will be established; this hope, however, is not the first reason for the protest being made. One protests because not to protest would be too humiliating, to diminishing, too deadly. One protests (by building a barricade, taking up arms, going on a hunger strike, linking arms, shouting, writing) in order to save the present moment, whatever the future holds.
To protest is to refuse being reduced to a zero and to an enforced silence. Therefore, at the very moment a protest is made, there is a small victory. . . . A protest is not principally a sacrifice made for some alternative, more just future; it is an inconsequential redemption of the present. The problem is how to live time and again with the adjective inconsequential.”
— John Berger, Bento’s Sketchbook: How Does the Impulse to Draw Something Begin?
“People here [in England 1848] expect a revolution. There will be no revolution, none that deserves to be called so. There may be a scramble for money. but as all the people we see want the things we now have, and not better things, it is very certain they will, under whatever change of forms, keep the old system. When I see changed men I shall look for a changed world. Whoever is skillful in heaping money now will be skillful in heaping money again.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson
When we are all so consumed with “getting ahead” and material success, I think it will be difficult to change the prevailing culture to one of “enough” and sustainability. I am part of the 99 percent. So if I want to see change, a fairer balance, what should I do?
It’s Christmas Time in the City
December 9, 2011
“City sidewalks, busy sidewalks,
Dressed in holiday style.
In the air
There’s a feeling
Of Christmas . . .
— from “Silver Bells” by Ray Evans
The colors and sounds of the holidays cheer our dark days of December. Here are some photos from an evening in the city:
“O Star of wonder, star of night,
Star with royal beauty bright.
Westward leading, still proceeding,
Guide us to thy Perfect Light.”
— from “We Three Kings of Orient Are” by the Reverend John Henry Hopkins
Enjoying the Holidays a Little at a Time
December 22, 2009
“I sometimes think we expect too much of Christmas Day. We try to crowd into it the long arrears of kindliness and humanity of the whole year. As for me, I like to take my Christmas a little at a time, all through the year. And thus I drift along into the holidays – let them overtake me unexpectedly – waking up some fine morning and suddenly saying to myself: “Why, this is Christmas Day!”
— David Grayson
My husband and I had a date downtown this week for dinner and a movie. Downtown Seattle is a magical place at night, full of holiday shoppers, families in their dressiest clothes lined up for photos with Santa, and plenty of sparkling lights. I enjoyed our evening out during this especially festive time of year.